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Today this blog changes course…It will become a place to answer those who bully me on the internet…

This person who sometimes takes the name of JOY…And this person is ANYTHING but “Joyous” stalks me on the internet and then bullies me for my opinions…

Here’s an example from today…

The Daily Mail…

Joy, Nashville, United States, 13 minutes ago
Nicole does NOT DRINK alcohol ever! Crazy 1urbanfan27 spends her life making up lies and spinning stories to try to make Nicole look bad, hoping to split up their marriage. Even Fan27 has ‘offered’ Keith, in her incessant online postings, a beer or wine to go with a “burger” or steak that SHE cooks him. Too bad Keith never reads her garbage or is in contact with her, but Fan27 just spends her life online “talking” to Keith! Talk about delusional & mean-spirited!

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This person is a liar…And a stalker…And a bully…This person wants to make ME look bad…This person takes things from a couple of years ago and rehashes them from another site that she stalked me on…But can no longer…And then goes to other places where I may post a comment…She doesn’t KNOW the truth about ME or my situation…But she lies about me and posts it as though it were the truth…Today this blog will portray the REAL bullies in MY life…And I will answer them here…

 

First in my comment there…I DID NOT mention alcohol…That was from other people’s comments…And this “Keith” that she mentions, KNOWS the truth of the situation and knows that this person and a few others persist in bullying me…This person does NOT know Keith…However…I am NOT going to put up with their lies…Or their bullying…

I am NOT delusional…I know what I know…And this JOY needs to get a life and stay OUT of mine…

 

Published at 10:57 PM CST…Sunday, January 1, 2017…

 

Profile #2

This woman says that she lives in a major city in Tennessee. She says that she used to be married to a musician. According to what she has said in the past, all her friends are musicians. That is of course not counting her bully friends at a certain well known artist’s site. Although she has not been as aggressive as some, in her stalking and bullying, she does insist that she knows the truth. And that I do not. Typical bully behavior. She may very well have been a stalker on the now defunct message board, under another name. She too, hangs out on the social media.

I had intended to update this blog, last summer. But life intervened. And so today, I begin, again.

Profile #1

This woman lives in a small town in Tennessee. She claims to live in a well known city in Tennessee. She hangs out on the social networks and the site of  a well known artist. She used to hang out on a message board that no longer exists. She is married, has two children and a job. She contacted me recently by private message. She has called me names. She has called me a liar. She has called me delusional. And that is only a small part. She has been stalking and bullying me for almost 3 years. Perhaps more, under other names.  I have requested no contact from her.

Over the next couple of weeks, I intend to revive this blog. I have encountered my personal bullies again. I intend to profile these bullies. This is so as to inform and alert others of what they can be dealing with, when it comes to internet harassment. The names will be changed to protect the innocent. But the bullying and harassment will be real.

Students Take A Stance Against Bullying and Cyberbullying in schools…

Link to video:

Local Students Take National Stance Against Bullying

Thanks to Scott Hannah…Tyler Gregory…WRGT Fox TV 45 News, Dayton, Ohio…And The No Bull Challenge…

From The Huffington Post
Cindy Waitt

Executive producer, Bully

Posted: 10/24/2012 4:40 pm

I’ll start. I gossiped about someone, and while that might not rate up there with threatening to smack someone across the face or actually doing it, bullying starts with words and moves its way up the pyramid of violence. That’s how bullying works.

As executive producer and an early supporter, through Waitt Institute of Violence Prevention, ofBully, I was thrilled at the astounding reception and attention that Lee Hirsch and Cynthia Lowen’s beautiful and disturbing film received. It’s long past time for this country to recognize the insidious and continual threat to millions of kids in school buildings, buses, and hallways across America. The film clearly became a tipping point in the anti-bullying movement, and that’s a good thing. Bullying is an almost universal concern; that’s why it resonates.

But… there’s more for us to think about. Hopping onto the anti-bullying bandwagon is also a good thing, but as you do, consider the role we adults play every day in the lives of our kids, and other people’s kids. As there are many ways kids bully, there are even more ways we adults bully.

As someone who has supported many types of violence prevention, it’s always been my feeling that a lot of schoolyard bullying may start somewhere else. A study done by the CDC in 2011 confirmedthat. Kids who bully and are bullied are more likely to live with abuse at home. This doesn’t mean that in all cases kids have seen it at home, but parents matter, as do all adults who work with and mentor children.

When people ask what they can do to stop bullying, after a few practical suggestions such as volunteering time and resources and talking to kids, what I tell them is to look in the mirror. Studies done suggest that we do have an impact on our kids. It’s up to us to show them how to treat other human beings. How are we doing? Not good enough. Millions of adults brutalize each other every day. I’m not counting street violence, but here are a few places that we inflict pain and trauma on each other every day in this country:

1) In the home. Bullying isn’t a strong enough word for family violence, but it has to be number one on the list. Children are present during 80 percent of the assaults against their mothers and three million children witness domestic violence each year. There are millions of incidents of domestic violence each year and kids are seeing them. We have to make this link and connect the dots between what kids see at home and how they might act at school, particularly in prevention and in the education of adolescents. Thanks to the Violence Against Women Act of 1994, stricter laws, and the tireless work of advocates and activists every day, we’ve made progress. But when I read that Congress has yet to settle their differences over the Violence Against Women Act re-authorization, I wonder what they might be thinking. I’ll get to Congress later.

2) In the workplace. The power and control tactics used in the home and in the schoolyard translate easily into where we earn our living. As sponsor of the first workplace bullying national survey, with the Workplace Bullying Institute and Zogby, we found that 37 percent of Americanshad experienced workplace bullying at some point in their careers. That’s millions of targets and millions of bullies where we work. Those concerned with the American economy would do well to see how some of this affects the bottom line, not to mention the lives of those psychologically traumatized every day.

3) Online. Kids aren’t the only ones who have figured out how to bully in cyberspace. Ever read message boards? We’ve read and been appalled at kids who started Facebook sites with “I hate…”, but there are tons of adult haters out there starting sites every day. As the Internet has come to represent our world, both at its best and at its worst, this isn’t surprising, but couldn’t we raise the level of the discourse beyond targeting each other?

4) On the air and on the news. We live in an age of bullying as entertainment, and while this pastime is as old as time itself, our airwaves are increasingly filling themselves up with it. It’s said that around 30 percent of television is now “reality based“, and while not all of these shows are filled with bullying, plenty are. Adults are featured “voting each other off the island” in a plethora of brutal ways, verbally assaulting co-workers, co-contestants, and even “friends.” Mean girls and mean boys are all grown up, and bringing their best schoolyard bully tactics to us every day and night. And the news? Some of the most popular talk shows feature those mean kids grown up too. If we can’t make this stop, and we can’t, can we at least start turning them off?

5) In our election process. There are some great politicians out there, dedicated and devoted to the public good, and many are active supporters of violence prevention. But, as a group, “hired” by us to work together in essentially a two-party system, they would earn a great big “dysfunctional” label and earn it easily. Let’s ponder this. Imagine a company where half the employees have as a stated goal the overthrow of the CEO. In this place, the employees have two camps, and many in both camps work not only on obstructing the work of the other camp every day, but are also featured in the media trashing the other camp on a daily basis as well. Would you invest in that company? We do. We have many political leaders as allies now in the anti-bullying movement. That’s great news, and we are grateful that this happened, but I’m hoping they’ll gaze into their collective mirror and look at what’s not working in their own halls. I think many of them would like to see more civility in the process of legislating.

Until, we get what we do to others and how we model for kids, the anti- bullying movement won’t move as well as we would hope. A study we did in Iowa by Dr. Alan Heisterkamp of the University Of Northern Iowa confirmed that kids whose parents spoke to them about violence and bullying were more likely to view violence as wrong and intervene when it’s happening. With that knowledge, we became co-sponsors with Marlo Thomas and Free to Be Foundation, AOL, Facebook, Johnson and Johnson, Bully director Lee Hirsch, the Department of Education, and the Ad Council in a new campaign that asks parents to talk to their kids about standing up to bullying and violence. That’s the second step. Showing them what non-violence is about every day is the first.

With the violence prevention agency, Futures without Violence, we did an ad years ago about the importance of modeling non-violent behavior to children. It said, essentially, “They’re waiting, they’re watching, they’ll listen.” They are and they will.

Cindy Waitt is the Executive Director of the Waitt Institute for Violence Prevention and Executive Producer of “Bully”. She co sponsored the first Workplace Bullying Institute Zogby Poll in the United States in 2007, and, with her brother, Ted, has been a lead supporter of Futures without Violence’s campaign “Coaching Boys into Men” and Jackson Katz’s “Mentors in Violence Prevention” for the past decade. She is Executive Producer, with Gloria Steinem and Kit Gruelle, of the upcoming documentary “Private Violence”. For more about her work, go to wivp.waittinstitute.org or cindywaitt.com

Follow Cindy Waitt on Twitter: www.twitter.com/cindywaitt

The organizations that this blog owner supports:

http://www.meganmeierfoundation.org/  The Megan Meier Foundation

http://nobullchallenge.org/  The No Bull Challenge Organization

 

“No matter what happens in life, be good to people.  Being good to people is a wonderful legacy to leave behind.” – Taylor Swift