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Bullies / Stalkers only believe their own version of the truth. They label their target as “delusional” if they disagree. The bully does not understand the difference between “delusion” and “illusion”. I have encountered such bullies and stalkers.

Definitions of Illusion Vs Delusion:

Illusion – Something with deceptive appearance: something that deceives the senses or mind, e.g. by appearing to exist when it does not or appearing to be one thing when it is in fact another.

Delusion – False belief: a persistent false belief held in the face of strong contradictory evidence.

Bullies cannot see that their truth is not the whole truth and nothing but the truth. It comes down to “appearance” versus  “evidence”.  The person who disagrees may have “evidence” to the contrary. Information the bully does not have.  In the words of a beautiful, popular country song *  “A picture’s worth a thousand words. But you can’t see what those shades of gray keep covered. You should’ve seen it in color.”

Bullies only see in black and white. They can’t see beneath those shades of gray. And they have never seen it in color.

* In Color By Jamey Johnson from the album  “That Lonesome Song” Mercury Nashville. Written by Jamey Johnson, James Otto and Lee Thomas Miller.

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Bully Poetry 101

Posted: October 21, 2012 in Editorial

“Jack and Jill went up a hill…

To stalk some poor poster…

But Jack isn’t real…

That’s how I feel…

And Jill is a bully/stalker”…

Till Death Do Us Part

Posted: October 13, 2012 in Editorial

Marilyn and Roger are cyber bullies. They bully as a married couple. At least, that’s what their target is told. You see, one of my personal stalkers told me on a certain now defunct fan message board, that her husband Roger, had been recruited by her to speak to me. Except that Roger probably only exists in the cyber bully/stalkers own warped mind. This bully, who recently stopped by to bully on this blog, has many personalities and names. She/he is a celebrity stalker too. This person, allows no discussion. Only her opinions matter. Only they are correct. If you disagree, you are belittled and ridiculed. This particular person, says that she lives near her favorite big city. She is married to Roger. And they have a wonderful life. She also has her own personal or administrative assistants. Or so she tells you. She also loves to hang out on one of the biggest celebrity/gossip sites on the net. I am talking about this particular bully today, because she asked on the gossip site, how this blog was doing? And I quote ” How’s that bully blog of yours? What a joke. BAHAHA”  Of course she asked as another of her personalities named Jill. (Jill @ 10/12/2012 ).  I wonder if Jill is married to Jack? I informed her that this blog is doing fine. As is my other blog.  She can no longer harass me, as she used to. She is now powerless to do so. Her target has been removed. I am sure that she bullies others, elsewhere. Her fictional husband Roger, still comments on the gossip site.

Something Stupid

Posted: September 28, 2012 in Editorial

A few days ago, one of my personal stalker/bullies showed up at my blog, again. To tell me that I’m stupid. Of course, this bully has told me that many times before. And of course, I am not stupid. But as I have said before, that’s what a bully does. They tell you how stupid you are. How wrong you are. They try to shut you up. With my moderation  rights, I may not be able to keep them from transmitting their hate via the written word, to me. But I can and will keep it out of my space. A bully, trying to change who I am, or what I do, is stupid.

One of my personal stalkers/bullies has been trying to comment on my blogs. Of course, I have all moderation rights on the comments made. This person was told that someday, they would not be able to harass me in a public forum. They would only be able to read. The day is here. This person is still trying to run my life. Tell me what I should and should not do. They should take their own message unto themselves and understand that they own only one person. And that one person, is not me. The mockery of advice they give, falls in silence. And on this particular day in our history, may all who bully, know. We will survive.

Anonymous Reality – A Bully Story

Posted: September 3, 2012 in Editorial

Several years ago on a certain message board that no longer exists, I encountered a particularly nasty bully/stalker. This person was in the process of recruiting people to her/his blog. I do believe this person to be female, however. Consider how many times these bullies pretend to be male, when they are not. It’s astounding. The blog was in support of a certain celebrity couple. This bully was convinced that only she/he knew the truth. That only her/his handful of followers told the truth at any given moment of the day. However, most of the comments on this bully blog, were made by anonymous people. I was a target of this bully. I had refused very early on, not to follow her/his blog. Mostly, because I didn’t like being recruited by a new username on a board that I had been a member of for years. I realize that a lot of the stuff that you find on the internet, especially on fan forums and blogs are personal opinion and not the whole truth. If there ever is a whole truth. You see, truth is never black and white. That’s why this blog is shades of gray. Because that is really what truth is. It’s an absolute only to the person who has experienced it. My whole point in talking about this, is to say that in any given situation, there is always feelings, emotions, prejudices, realities, likes, dislikes etc, when opinion is involved. A person becomes a bully, when they will not allow anyone else with an opinion, to voice it. I have experienced these kinds of bullies over the last few years. They harp on the rightness of their opinion. They seem to think that their truth is the only truth. They are completely convinced of this. So they bully and coerce and harass other people who do not agree with them. Then they target you. They follow you around to see what you are saying. They post your words on places on the internet. This particular bully posted on her blog. Then they proceed to call you names. The fact is, that they don’t know you. They have never known you. They really know very little about you. And that is what bothers them. So they bully and harass you, every chance that they get. They get some of their followers to do the same. All the while, posting anonymously. Or under other made-up names. I’m not saying one or two, as some people have for different sites that they belong to. I’m saying many, many names that they post under. Some made up on the spot. Not for any real reason, except to bully one or more people that they target. They, themselves, do what they accuse other posters of doing. I have personally seen and know of several people from a board that I participated in, who admitted on that board that they did just that. And they personally stalked and harassed me. In all their usernames. All in a days work for an internet bully.

*An example from an anonymous poster on the stalker/bully’s blog.

“They make up pretend lives in (insert city- I removed the name to protect a place I love*), pretend jobs they don’t have, great lives that are a farce.

No one who writes the things they write on a public message board can have any kind of “normal” life anywhere in the world. They are crazy and could NOT hold a nice life together .

The truth is they spend all day on their computer, sign in as different people, have pretend personalities , and ANSWER THEMSELVES. lol

Does it get any loonier than that?”

*My question exactly.

The Bully Report

Posted: August 10, 2012 in Editorial

One of my internet bully stalkers, follows me by e-mail here. She then reports back to the other members of the band of bullies. This is the same behavior that has been practiced for some time in other places. The stalking. The bullying. The reporting back. At one time, I thought this woman was a decent person. She was on a certain site and although she had not been around as long as I had, she seemed to be nice to me. Then she went to the dark side. This woman is married. Has a family. But she hangs out after a certain well known person. She has a corner of her living room, dedicated to this person. She has 3 computors to keep track of this person. I have seen the picture of this corner. I suspect, that I too, am stalked in this corner. She has said that her husband doesn’t mind. I believe though, that he doesn’t know the details. The reason I am talking about this today is that my only option, would be to go private with this blog. Something I may still do. Although I don’t believe that is the best way to get an issue in front of the public on stalking and bullying.  I myself am trying to deal with the lies that these people tell. They still do not know me. I certainly do not want to know them. Not in a real sense. They talk friendship and then they stalk someone as a band of bully friends.  I was in fact, told by one of their collaborators that I should keep my enemies closer. I can’t do that. I don’t need acquaintances that badly. I certainly don’t need friends that badly.

*Note By Blog Owner*  Updated: August 14, 2012

This woman has now stopped following me here via e-mail. But she is following me in another place.

*Note By Blog Owner*   Updated:  August 17, 2012

The woman is no longer following by e-mail.  I guarantee that there are many bookmarks and links saved.